Anonymous asked: Honestly do you believe that SOME people cut them selves and say they have depression/ anxiety attention? Do you think its put on half of the time? Or do you believe most people actually suffer from it from actual situations? xxxx
Response: No one would physically harm themselves for no reason.. If an individual is doing that to themselves there is going to be a legitimate reason behind it. It doesnt have to be a bad reason... or one that others believe is “adequate” or “bad” enough to cut or harm oneself. It’s about how certain situations effect us as people and individuals. We all cope with things in different ways. Some coping strategies are just a lot more appropriate and understandable than others, that’s all. I DO believe that if someone appears to be seeking “attention”, they are more than likely asking or reaching out for HELP and SUPPORT; they want someone to save them - not criticise them. They don't want attention, they want love and guidance. Give it to them! Or steer them in a direction where someone else CAN help them if you are unable to. Just because we don't understand something doesnt make it “wrong”... and sometimes understanding THAT is the hardest part x.
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TALK TO SOMEONE - Tell your parents but ALSO talk to someone professionally - preferably a counsellor, psychologist, trained youth worker, family doctor, etc. Preferably someone who is NOT in your life usually, so you can work objectively on building new coping strategies that suit YOU. And OPEN UP to them, they can help. Talking therapies have been shown to have great success.
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CONTRACT with a friend (or yourself, or anonymously on someone's blog) NOT to hurt yourself next time you feel like it - You will need to have a plan however of what you are going to do instead each and every time ! Think of something that is easy to access - go for a run, play fetch with the dog, jump on a trampoline, hang upside down over the lounge, pluck your bikini line, do star jumps or situps, practise the splits or some other flexibility pose. The idea is to do something that requires some level of effort as well as discomfort or pain(to take your mind off the emotional pain inside). If all else fails, some people find holding ice on their wrists satisfies the need for "pain" (it burns and stings like hell) but doesn't do damage or leave scars.
ALWAYS TELL SOMEONE IF YOU THINK YOU MIGHT HURT YOURSELF BADLY OR ARE CAN'T SEE HOPE FOR THE FUTURE. PLEASE ASK FOR HELP FOR YOURSELF WHEN YOU NEED IT - PINKY PROMISE ME !
Love and light,
Sjana x